Photographer Captures Men Before And After Becoming A Father, And The Result Says It All

Becoming a parent is a truly life-changing moment and a London-based photographer captured the emotional moments that men go through before and right after becoming fathers.

Tom Oldham spent 72 hours capturing the different emotions that fathers-to-be go through before and after entering the delivery room.

“These portraits capture a really powerful moment in the lives of these men and aim to showcase the enormity of becoming a parent,” said the photographer about his project.

The portraits all show tense ‘befores’ and he happy, relaxed, even surprised ‘afters’ of newly made dads.

The project ‘Becoming a Father’ that was commissioned by PlayStation to mark the launch of their new game ‘God of War’, that follows a warrior and on the relationship between a father and a son.

Hector Adebambo, 32, from Bromley

“For me, becoming a dad just kicked in naturally, it feels right. I’ve been speaking to my son for nine months and he’s finally here.”

Andy West, 36, from Forest Hill

“I’ve instantly realized that having a child is going to have such a profound effect because I’m always going to be responsible for another person.”

Toan Lam, 34, from New Cross

“When my son was born, my outlook on life changed instantly and I knew that I would need to be there every step of the way to see him grow. Becoming responsible for another human being is the most surreal experience; I can’t quite put it into words but I hope the portraits convey the magnitude of this feeling.”

Pedro Diego Fernandez, 34, from Sydenham Hill

“The birth was much more overwhelming than I expected but I felt amazing as soon as I held my healthy son and saw him open his eyes. I just want to be the best man for my partner and baby.”

Federico Grillo, 34, from Greenwich

“After the birth, as the adrenalin was wearing off, I felt like time had slowed down. I was holding my son and it just felt very peaceful. I know that fatherhood will motivate me to get the best for my family.”

Tom Chappell, 35, from Hindley Green

“I think my priorities will change significantly now that I’m a dad. We only had ourselves to think about before but now everything will be considered with my daughter in mind… and rightly so.

Leyna Bloom Is Determined To Be The First Trans Model To Walk In The Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show

If you don’t know who Leyna Bloom is yet, chances are you will soon. The model risked homelessness in order to follow her dreams, and now that she’s on her way to the top, she has no plans of stopping. Most recently, she took to Twitter to announce her dreams of wanting to be the first transgender model of color to walk in not just any fashion show—but the Victoria’s Secret fashion show.

Model. Leyna Bloom is the 27-year-old transgender woman who has already walked multiple fashion shows since the start of her career. Not only that, but she was also the first transgender model of color to be featured in an issue of Vogue India.

Fashion show. Now, Bloom is looking to add yet another accomplishment to her list by being the first transgender model to walk in the Victoria’s Secret fashion show. She took to Twitter to make the announcement, which unsurprisingly got over 100,000 likes.

Dream. “Trying to be the 1st Trans model of color walk a #VictoriaSecret Fashion show. #transisbeautiful #LeynaBloom,” she tweeted. Bloom has previously tweeted about how it’s always been her dream to work for Victoria’s Secret.

Moment. “It’s always been a dream for me, like so many others, not just trans — POC, all women, and some men even. This is a platform that glorifies femininity. I always felt in my most natural state I am heavenly. For my trans sisters, regardless of color, this will be a moment for us all,” Bloom told Yahoo Style.

Called out. Despite her desire to work for the company, Bloom has spoken out about the company’s lack of diversity when it comes to their models. During last year’s show, she called out the lingerie brand for featuring mostly white models.

Diversity. “All these women of color in the VS fashion show that’s amazing right. But they still have way more white girls. It’s like every time they added a woman of color they added another white girl. Next year they need to cast trans and curve models all colors not just Caucasians,” she tweeted.

Cast. Hopefully, the company will take into consideration Bloom’s offer to be in the show, and thus show that they are a company that is capable of representing everyone. Regardless of whether or not she gets cast, it’s safe to say she won’t be lacking in the job department.

Work. “Work has been steady. There’s definitely been a gamble with other bigger brands to take on a trans model of color. I don’t know why it’s so hard for them to want to give us a shot. Then again, nothing happens overnight,” she told Yahoo.

Dreams. Bloom is familiar with being patient, as she has wanted to be a model since she was young. When she was just 17 years old, she traveled from Chicago to New York, where she slept on trains and lived off of cheap pizza.

Opportunity. “Coming here, I didn’t have a plan. There were sometimes when I was homeless. I was sleeping on trains. I had my suitcase. I would go uptown to downtown, to this train to that train. During the day I would just go out in the city and see the city, learn the grounds that I’m walking on. And understanding that on every corner is a possibility to create an opportunity. I didn’t mind that. I see comfort wherever I lay my head,” Bloom told Mic.

Fashion shows. But it seems all that sacrifice has paid off, as Bloom’s career has taken off. She’s already walked in several shows at New York Fashion Week, which she says was quite a monumental moment for her.

Peers. “When I was walking down the runway and at the end when I did that pose, that was for every trans woman [who] wanted to be in that moment, [who] worked to be that moment, to be celebrated by all our peers in fashion,” Bloom told Mic.

Shock. After her debut on the runway came the call from Vogue, which Bloom says caught her by surprise. At first, she was in disbelief, but now she is grateful and hopes she’s been an inspiration for people who are dreaming of an opportunity like hers.

Inspiration. “I’m living a lot of people’s dreams right now. It’s every single girl and boy [who] lives in these marginalized communities [who] want something so bad. I want to let them know that I’m doing it for you,” said Bloom, as reported by Mic.

Social media. It’s unclear whether or not Victoria’s Secret has reached out to Bloom about a spot for her on the runway, but we wouldn’t be surprised to see her there. You can follow Bloom’s amazing life and career on her Instagram and Twitter accounts.

Couple lose newborn baby in hospital – 4 days later, they get a call from a nurse that changes everything

It’s a dream of many young couples to start their own family. That’s why Katie and Josh Butler were over the moon when they were told they were going to have a child.

However, their hopes and desires would turn to ash before they were barely started on the journey of parenthood.

When Katie went in for an ultrasound at 20 weeks, it was discovered that there was something wrong. Doctors couldn’t pinpoint exactly what the problem was, but they knew all wasn’t right.

And so began their rollercoaster ride … one that would take many twists and turns before its end.

After Katie and Josh Butler’s baby, Dewey, was born, he was rushed to the NICU in a bid to save his life. Sadly, it wasn’t enough; Dewey passed away after 132 days of fighting. His heart couldn’t take the strain brought about by an attempt to surgically fit him with a feeding tube.

Naturally, Katie and Josh were devastated. They’d been confident that Dewey could succeed in his battle against adversity, and so it was a hammer blow when his death left them in grief.

“I felt so guilty for thinking of this but there was also a sense of relief, he was finally healed and I know I’ll see him again,” Katie told Caters News Agency.

The parents turned to God to help them through their trials. It was when Katie and Josh were in the process of celebrating the life of their precious Dewey that a miracle occurred.

One of the nurses in NICU called to let the couple know there was a baby on the 5th floor of the hospital who needed a mom and dad. The boy, named Brax, had multiple health conditions that meant his family wasn’t able to care for him.

Katie and Josh didn’t know what to expect, but four days later they met a sweet little boy. Brax had been prematurely born at 27 weeks. At 11-months-old, he had never left a hospital, and had a chronic respiratory failure, pulmonary hypertension and was trach-vent dependent. Katie and Josh were told, however, there was a chance he might improve with age.

There was no question as to what the couple would do next. They took Brax home and fostered him. Then, when they were eligible, a few months later, they officially adopted the boy.

“Once we brought him home, his health started to improve. He still needs oxygen but his movement and feeding have improved so much. He knows us and he smiles at us and can identify us. Our family has really taken to him. We have all this love because of Dewey and want to pour this love into Brax.”

We wish Katie and Josh a lifetime of happiness with little Brax. What happened with Dewey is terribly sad, but there’s light at the end of the dark tunnel for the family in the form of another vulnerable baby who needs their help.

13 Terrifying Things We Should All Know About Sleep Paralysis

Sleep paralysis is something that is more common than most think. It is a sleep disorder that unlike some can be quite terrifying.

For those who do not know sleep paralysis is the temporary inability to move or speak while falling asleep or upon waking up. While for the most part, these episodes are usually just a few seconds or minutes they can be extremely frightening. Some people who experience sleep paralysis also have something known as narcolepsy but not all do.

The term sleep paralysis can be used to describe a lot of different experiences people have. That being said the core signs or symptoms are generally the same. Below you will find a list of things we all need to know in regards to sleep paralysis.

13 Things We Should All Know About Sleep Paralysis:

1. It is not a ‘disease.’

Sleep paralysis is not something that you can catch or contract. It is a natural occurrence and can happen to anyone. Most have experienced this before are not even aware of it now. Depending on who you are your experience with sleep paralysis might be mild or intense.
2. Sleep paralysis can induce hallucinations.

When going through sleep paralysis your mind can and will sometimes induce hallucinations. This makes things a lot scarier because something is happening around you and you cannot even move.

3. Sleep paralysis happens when your body struggles to make the transition from or into REM sleep.

REM sleep or rapid eye movement sleep is something our body has to go into when we go to sleep and come out of when we wake up. If our body is having trouble doing so we can end up with sleep paralysis. This can be broken down into two different kinds of sleep paralysis depending on when yours occurs.

4. There is no real danger surrounding it.

While it is terrifying you are not really in danger. It is not something that causes harm to the body in any way. This might be important to remember during these spells.

5. Some people with this experience sensed a presence.

This is essential when you are unable to move or speak but you feel as if someone or something in is the room with you. You are sensing something that is just out of your sight. This could even be merely sensing a darkness or full of feeling like there is a clown hovering over you.

6. People are awake during sleep paralysis.

While a lot of people confuse this will being asleep but aware I can assure you those dealing with sleep paralysis are awake. They are no longer in a dream and are moving towards consciousness. The only difference is they cannot move their bodies.

7. They really cannot move.

People dealing with sleep paralysis really are unable to move during these spells. I know it may seem odd or even unreal to think about things like this but this is a reality for many people. Inability to move is often the first thing these people notice.

8. Some people experience chest pressure.

The sense of physical weight being pressed to the chest is almost unbearable. Some people experience this every time they wake up. It is as if someone has placed a block on their chest and is slowly crushing them. They are being smothered underneath.

9. Most sleep paralysis attacks occur while laying on the back.

It seems more often than not the person going through an attack is sleeping on his or her back. Studies have shown we do not tend to fall asleep in this position but may toss and turn in our sleep. Could you imagine waking up and being unable to move only to see nothing but the ceiling?

10. Sleep paralysis is most likely to occur during adolescence.

That being said, it can happen to anyone. Whether you are old or young you can experience this. It is important to be aware of it long before you experience it.

11. For some, it can be prevented.

While not everyone is going to be able to completely prevent this some can. If your sleep paralysis comes from a specific trigger getting rid of the trigger is essential. I know, easier said than done.

12. Stress, sleep deprivation, and panic disorders can cause/trigger sleep paralysis.

You really need to be sure to take care of yourself. Get the right amount of sleep and distress as much as possible. Cutting corners is not doing you any favors and could do more harm than you think.

13. People have been experiencing sleep paralysis for centuries.

We have been dealing with this for longer than you can imagine. If you notice this happening a lot seeing a doctor and talking things over may benefit you greatly. There are ways to help work through this.

For more information please check out the video below. Have you ever experienced sleep paralysis and what was it like for you? I for one am glad I have not yet.

The heartbreaking story of Abigail shows that every life is a beautiful miracle

No matter how much we plan and prepare for, we’re never in complete control of the things that happen in our lives.

And that’s why we sometimes have to make incredibly difficult decisions.

When 36-year-old Christina Fisher from Florida got pregnant, the timing was far from perfect.

She didn’t have a job and was about to get evicted from the trailer park where she lived. And she knew it wouldn’t be easy to give her child a fair chance of succeeding in the world.

So with a heavy heart, Christina decided to put her baby up for adoption.

But when little Abigail was born, everything changed. The family that promised to adopt the newborn girl suddenly changed their mind.

As soon as they saw Abigail’s face, they turned around and rushed out of the hospital.

Christina said that all her ultrasounds showed that her baby was developing normally, which is why it came as a shock when Abigail Lynn was born in January 2016.

Christina and the doctors instantly noticed that the newborn girl looked different from the other children in the maternity ward.

Abigail was diagnosed with Treacher Collins syndrome, a rare genetic disease that causes the face to be asymmetrical and can also cause respiratory and eye problems.

Despite the diagnosis, Christina didn’t feel anything but love for her little girl — she thought Abigail was incredibly beautiful.

And who would disagree?

Unfortunately, Abigail’s adoptive family did, writes The Telegraph.

The family arrived at the hospital to support Christina while she was in labor. But after the 36-year-old gave birth, it was a different story.

When the adoptive-mom-to-be saw Abigail’s face, all her kind words and friendly smiles disappeared.

“She came out crying… and left the hospital. We never heard from them again,” Christina said.

Christina took the unexpected turn of events as a sign. She scrapped her adoption plans and decided to raise Abigail on her own.

And she contacted a photographer to take some beautiful pictures of her and her daughter.

Christina thought the photos were so nice that she posted some online, along with Abigail’s incredible story.

She also set up a GoFundMe campaign, and almost 600 people joined forces to donate about $22,000 — money that is helping Christina give her daughter a good start to life.

We humans can be amazing when we get together and refuse to give up on a child just because they have a disease or look different.

It seems like fate decided that Christina needed to keep her child because the decision she made to give her daughter up for adoption is something that no mom or dad wants to make.

We think Abigail is super cute and we wish her all the best in the future!

We’d also like to thank all the strangers who helped this little family get off to a good start.

5 Signs You Are Gaslighting Your Children

While most of us only want to do what is best for our children some of us have a warped view of what exactly that is. Sure, we all think our children are content but are they?

Gaslighting, for those who do not know, is a form of psychological abuse. It is a tactic many abusers use to make someone feel as if their reality is completely incorrect. This is a very manipulative tactic and it takes a big toll on the victim. While some of this happens in romantic relationships it is also often present in parent-child relationships as well.

Gaslighting is something that is done slowly and leaves the victim practically brainwashed. People who are gaslighting their children may not realize they are doing so because for some it could even be part of a cycle but it is something that needs to stop. If the following list of signs stand out to you in your relationship with your child you need to do better and really change your ways.

5 Signs You Are Gaslighting Your Children:

1. You mock your children.

Humiliating your children whether you realize you are doing so or not can be considered gaslighting. Mocking your children leaves them feeling confused and upset. This is not an acceptable thing to do. Just because you don’t think they should be upset over something doesn’t mean you should make them feel like what they are feeling is invalid.

2. Being too controlling.

Sure, as the parent you are the one in control, but you should not be overassertive. While we all are afraid of our children branching out and taking flight on their own we need to accept that it will happen. Don’t make your child feel like by being more independent he or she is doing anything wrong. You should not make your child feel helpless without you, one day you will not be around. You children need to know how to function without you.

3. You never apologize.

As parents, even we can be wrong from time to time. It is important to say sorry when we make mistakes. We should not be making out children feel like they are always doing things wrong even when they aren’t. While it may be hard to apologize to your children it is important to do so in some cases.

4. You are too hard on your child.

Sure, sometimes kids make mistakes, this is perfectly normal. Flying off the handle each and every time is not going to help the situation. Don’t make your child hide things from you if you are constantly overreacting they will stop sharing things with you. Sure, discipline is important but only to an extent. It is not the end of the world every time your son or daughter forgets to do a chore or something of the sort.

5. You dismiss their emotions.

You tell your child he or she is overreacting when in all reality he or she is not. This is not a good way to parent. You should not tell your children what they should or shouldn’t be feeling. Their emotions are their own, you cannot change them. This goes hand in hand with the parents who try to tell their children what they do and do not like, it does not work like that.

April 29th’s Full Pink Moon: Make Every Moment Count and Collect All of This Positive Energy

For those who may not know, the full moon of April is referred to as a ‘pink moon’ or ‘full pink moon.’ This moon is much different than the rest and is energetically charged in a unique manner.

The full pink moon will be visible here in the US on the night of the 29th. It will be occurring just days after the peak of the Lyrid meteor shower enhancing the energies surrounding it. During this full pink moon, things are going to come together cosmically. It will be a good time to really wake up spiritually. As these energies get closer you will feel the need to get moving and really dig deeper within.

This full pink moon is all about positivity and moving forward. You will finally be able to get work done you never thought you would be able to finish. You are going to be acting at a much faster pace than normal but productivity and efficiency will not suffer. Everything you stand for and all that makes you who you are will come into perspective one way or another.

If you have been battling anything internally expect it to finally resolve during this full moon or in the days proceeding it. While this moon will not be pink in color it will bring light pink energies. Most full moons are good at getting our emotions going but this one will be quite different.

This will still be an opportunity for you to heal but not in the same ways you have during full moons before. Write out where you want to go from here and what you wish to achieve during the full pink moon, use it to get things done. The energies it is bringing out way will be felt for weeks to come and will work wonders in our lives.

As I mentioned above this full pink moon is all about positivity and so you should not be giving power to anything negative. Let go of the past and anything holding you back, this full pink moon is going to catapult you towards something you are not expecting. For more information on what this full pink moon might hold for you check out the video below.

“Hot Felon” Jeremy Meeks Is Expecting A Child With Topshop Heiress Chloe Green

Would you believe it if I told you that it's nearly been a whole four years since the tanned, blue-eyed convict, Jeremy Meeks stole the hearts of millions of women from all corners of the world?

Incredibly, it was back in June, 2014, that the former inmate was dubbed the "world's hottest felon", making waves on pretty much every social media platform.

It all began after the 34-year-old's mugshot went viral, seemingly overnight, when it was posted on the Stockton Police Department's official Facebook page.

And why did that particular mugshot gain such rapid interest? Well, simply because the internet couldn't get over how smolderingly hot Jeremy was.

While it could have been so easy for Jeremy to fade back into obscurity after his stint in prison, this was far from the case.

In fact, the former prison inmate who made who was affectionately nicknamed "The Blue-Eyed Bandit" managed to land himself a modeling contract with an agency practically the moment he was released from prison in March 2016.

Millions upon millions of women began to fawn over the "hot felon", all the while neglecting to realize that he was, in fact, a married man and father-of-one.

Indeed, many of his fans were shocked to discover that he had been with his wife, Melissa, for eight years before it abruptly ended in 2016.

After news of the split came to the fore, it soon emerged that Jeremy had moved on from his former family life with his wife and seven-year-old son.

Yes, last summer it was being reported that he had begun seeing Chloe Green, a Topshop heiress, and had no qualms about publicizing the relationship all over Instagram.

While the pair seem happy together in the snaps, Melissa has had nothing positive to say about the blossoming relationship.

As the former couple's divorce proceedings continue, she has been pretty candid about Jeremy's new relationship with Chloe.

In face, in one Instagram post, she seemed to imply that Jeremy had already cheated on his new girlfriend, writing:

"Thank you for all the positive love...I’ve never been in a better place in my life than I am now. My ex-husband has already been unfaithful in his new relationship. With me... Id rather be alone and happy with self-respect then to be played."

However, it does seem that Jeremy and Chloe are in it for the long-term according to US Weekly's sources.

Last week, there were rumors that the pair were looking to start a family together, and now a number of sources are claiming that they are already expecting their first child. "Chloe wants to get pregnant right away," a source said. "She's off the booze already."

And apparently, Jeremy and Chloe have the blessing of Chloe's mother and father in their pursuit of starting their own family.

"Her parents have recently done an unexpected U-turn on Jeremy, and are now embracing him as one of the Greens," it was claimed. "They are resigned to the fact he'll be a part of their lives forever".

Well, if the couple are happy enough and feel ready to start a family together then I all I can say is good luck to them! Let's hope Jeremy will continue to stay on the straight and narrow for the newest addition to his family.